GREETING – “Oli Aloha”
Onaona I ka hala, E ka lehua
E hale lehua, oia na ka noe
O ka’u no ia, e ano’l nei
Ea li’a nei, ho’l o ka hiki mai
A hiki mai no ou kou, a hiki pu no me ke aloha
Aloha e Aloha e
The “Oli Aloha” is a chant, which offers a word of greetings. It says, in part, that This is the sight for which you have longed. Now that you have come, love has come with you. (Aloha and welcome).
__________ and ____________, we are here to celebrate your marriage, on this very special day (Date, Day, Year). You have chosen to affirm your love for one another with spoken words, music, prayer and with the sharing of symbols. It is good that you have chosen this place here in Hawaii.
PRAYER OF INVOCATION:
Hear the words from an ancient Hawaiian marriage chant.
There was a seeking of the lost, now it is found. A mate is found.
One to share the chills of winter.
Love has made a plea that you two are to become united.
Here in Hawaii is a perch, a perch in heaven.
You two are now to become one.
For the day is here at last!
You are to be wedded.
The prayer has gone it’s way.
Love is patient, Love is kind, Love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on it’s own way.
It is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in the wrong but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends..so faith, hope and love abide, these three, but the greatest of these is Love.
(Lei Exchange – if chosen )
Here in Hawaii we exchange (Flower Leis), signifying our open hearts and love for one another. The beautiful “Lei” with all of it’s hand-picked flowers, are twined and carefully bonded together with love; a reflection of your love and Aloha for each other. As you exchange these “Leis”, you will now being to weave your own “Lei of Live” with love throughout Eternity. And now, with loving Aloha, please present your leis to one another.
(Song) – Optional
Declaration of Intention – Please join hands
____________, marriage is our society has come to mean that a man will love, respect and cherish his wife...he will make his wife the closest companion of his life. That he will reserve his intimate associations for her alone. That he will give his strength and wisdom to the support and comfort of his wife and family. Do you now commit yourself to _______, whole-heartedly in this way? If so, please say (respond: I Do).
____________, it is our belief that marriage will involve a woman in the same kind of commitment. A commitment of companionship, respect and love. A commitment to reserve your intimate associations for him alone. A commitment of mutual support in the establishment and care of your family and home. Do you now commit yourself to _______, whole-heartedly in this way? If so, please say (respond: I Do).
_______ and _______, you have already heard the reading that love in patient and kind. Such love will require a depth of commitment which you cannot take lightly in your relationship with one another. Yes, love is patient and kind. But you both know that there will be occasions in the years ahead when you may find yourselves far from patient and kind with one another. When these moments occur, take some time to remember all that happened here at this moment, on this very special day.
______and______, true marriage is the holiest of all earthly relationships and should be entered into reverently, thoughtfully, and with full understanding of it’s sacred nature. It is an act of faith and a personal commitment, as well as a moral and physical union between two people. Marriage symbolizes the intimate sharing of two lives and this sharing touches and inspires the lives of family and friends. Today you make public the covenant you have already made in your hearts. You are also here to receive the blessing which seals this union. There are no ties on earth more sweet and tender than those you are about to assume. There is no contract more sacred than that of the marriage you are about to establish.
Our Lord Jesus Christ taught us that at the beginning of creation God made man and woman. “For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”. Consequently, they are no longer two, but one flesh. You have come to be made husband and wife. I ask you to affirm your willingness to enter into this covenant of marriage.
(Groom) ______, do you with for (Bride) to be known as your lawfully Wedding Wife? If so, please say “I Do”.
(Bride) _______, do you wish for (Groom) to be known as your lawfully Wedded Husband? If so, please say “I Do”.
_______ and _______, do you promise to let your love for each other grow as it will, as it must so that in the years to come you will renew your acceptance, understanding and trust of one another? If so, please say, “We Promise”.
Do you promise to take care of yourselves as individuals and to embrace each other in all that is different about each other as well as to embrace each other in all that you hold in common? If so, please say “We Promise”.
Your rings by their shape are symbols of eternal unity, without beginning or end. They are the emblems of love that exist between you and they represent your devotion to one another. And so, let these rings always remind you of the commitment that you make to each other here on this very special day. Wherever you go, may you always return to one another in togetherness and peace.
(Holding each ring in turn)
(Groom) _______, please repeat after me: (Bride), I give this ring to you as a sign of my love. But even more I give myself to you to be your husband. I promise to love and sustain you in the covenant of our marriage from this day forward, in sickness and in health, in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, as long as we both shall live.
(Bride) _______, please repeat after me: (Groom), I give this ring to you as a sign of my love. But even more I give myself to you to be your wife. I promise to love and sustain you in the covenant of our marriage from this day forward, in sickness and in health, in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, as long as we both shall live.
(Song or reading optional)
Lord’s Prayer – Optional
LET US PRAY (E PULE KA KOU)
Na lehova oe e hoomaika’I mai, a e malama mai: Na lehova e kau mai I ka malamalama o kono maka maluna iho ou, a e lokomaikai. Na lehova e malu mai ia oe, a e ha’awi mai I malu nou.
May God bless you and keep you both. May God’s face shine upon you and be gracious unto you. May God’s countenance be lifted up upon you and give you peace.
_______ and _______, you are united as husband and wife. Go forth on your journey together. May you keep this covenant you have made and may you be a comfort to each other..share each others joys, console each other in sorrow, help each other in all of life. May you trust each other. Trust life and do not be afraid. May you be given the gift of memory of this moment and this day forward.
With the blessings of everyone who is present here today, and ALMIGHTY GOD OUR LORD AND SAVIOUR JESUS CHRIST, and by the power vested in me by the State of Hawaii, it is my pleasure to pronounce you both as husband and wife. You may now kiss your Bride.