Hawaiian Christian Wedding Ceremony By Rev. Matt Jim
E ko makou Makua iloko o ka lani, He nani nou
Which is to say, Our Father who art in heaven,
How great and brilliant thou art.
We come before you on this holy occasion
With our hearts filled with the spirit of love
He nani nou.
We praise and worship you
As the giver of life
And creator of all good things
As we enter into this service, we give you thanks
For the holy union of marriage.
The most sacred of all human relationships,
He nani nou.
We pray for your presence here today
And your blessing upon B_____, and G_____
As they enter their new life together.
Amen, and amene,
(minister) Please be seated, mahalo
INTRODUCTION AND GIVING AWAY OF THE BRIDE
Minister: “Of all the relationships known among people, the most precious and perfect of all is that of a husband and wife. It is therefore fitting that we should be gathered here in the sight of God to witness the vows of this man and woman and by our presence and especially prayers to bless their union. Who gives this woman to be the bride of this man? FATHER OF THE BRIDE (or person in this role); “I do” or “Her mother and I” or “Her family and I.”
STATEMENT OF PURPOSE
God is the author of love. In the beginning when the Lord God formed man from the dust of the ground and placed him in the Garden of Eden, Adam was lonely. So the Lord God made a companion and helper for him. When Adam saw Eve, he was no longer lonely.
Love is a major key in a lasting and joyous marriage. The apostle Paul expressed such love in 1 Corinthians 13:1-7, 13.
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
Therefore, as you step into marriage, you must remember first of all that marriage is a process of transformation. Because of it, inside of it, and in response to it, you will change most remarkably. For marriage is the spiritual grinding stone that will polish you both to your brightest brilliance.
In marriage you will be reformed for in choosing to love and make your whole life with this person, you are choosing to be affected.
THE MARRIAGE VOWS
Please join hands and, to each other, express your vows of love and devotion.
(you may choose to say your own vows)
MINISTER; “In the beginning, God saw that it was not good for man to be alone. So out of his wisdom and love, he gave to him a woman, to be his companion in a union so intimate and tender that they were to be regarded no longer as two, but as one flesh. Since this is of God, it must not be looked upon lightly. Therefore, I shall ask you to turn and face one another and join your hands as you exchange your vows of marriage.
MINISTER: “G____,do you take B____, whose hands you hold to be your lawfully wedded wife, pledging before God and these witnesses to be unto her ever faithful, devoted, and true?
GROOM: “I do”
MINISTER: “And will you sustain her in sickness and in health, in times of poverty if they should come, as well as in prosperity?”
MINISTER: “B____, do you take G___, whose hands you hold to be your lawfully wedded husband, pledging before God and these people who love you to be unto him ever faithful, devoted, and true?
BRIDE: “I do”
MINISTER: and will you sustain him in sickness and in health, in times of poverty if they should come as well as in prosperity?”
BRIDE: “I will”
MINISTER: “And so long as you shall both live, will you keep yourself unto him, and unto him alone?”
BRIDE: “I will”
LEI EXCHANGE (OPTIONAL)
The exchange of the flower leis signifies two hearts and the love that you have for each other. It is handpicked and twined together binding the reflection of your love for each other. As you exchange your leis you will begin to weave your own lei of Life together for all eternity.
EXCHANGE OF RINGS
And now you are privileged to further seal these vows by giving and receiving the wedding rings. This golden circle from time immortal has been a symbol of wedded love. It is made of pure metal and should always symbolize the purity of the love which binds your hearts together.
As an endless circle it should remind you of the unending love which unites your lives. May these rings be worn with great honor and be a reminder of this moment when your lives were united. And may you always endeavor to keep your vows ever before you.
G____, will you now take this ring and repeat after me as you place it on your bride’s finger: “With this ring I thee wed, and upon the union of our hands and hearts, I pray the blessing of Almighty God.”
B____, will you now take this ring and repeat after me as you place it on your groom’s finger: “With this ring I thee wed, and upon the union of our hands and hearts, I pray the blessing of Almighty God.”
PRONOUNCEMENT OF MARRIAGE
Forasmuch as G___and B___ have consented together in holy wedlock and have witnessed the same before God and this company and have pledged their faith and love to each other, and have declared the same by exchanging vows, and by giving and receiving rings, I pronounce that they are man and wife, in the name of the Father, and the Son and of the Holy Spirit, Amen.
You may kiss the bride!
PRESENTATION OF BRIDE AND GROOM
And now it is my privilege to present to you Mr. and Mrs. ________